apples on trees. The best
ones are at the top of the tree.
The boys don't want to reach for
the good ones because they are afraid
of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they
just get the rotten apples from the ground
that aren't as good, but easy. So the apples
at the top think something is wrong with
them, when in reality, they're amazing.
They just have to wait for the right
boy to come along, the one
who's brave enough
to climb
all the
way to
the top
of the tree.
by Pete Wentz
I came across this cute little word picture (above) the other day and had to incorporate it into the blog.
This being Valentine's week, I figured I'd write some relationship-y type post. So, here we are:
Just to set the stage a bit I must first admit that I am somewhat of a relationship traditionalist (most of you know this already). I am not completely "gendered" like roomie, but I do have some more traditional ideas about dating. Two major ones are: 1) I think a guy should pursue a girl and try to win her heart; and that a woman should wait for a man to do so, 2) I think couples should be committed to one another and have made love to each other's minds before even thinking of going there with their bodies. These two things, in my personal life, are nonnegotiable. I also have (what some would call silly) notions about how pairings should be. Knowing that there are many wonderful exceptions to the rules, I still hold some of these, a couple which are: 1) I think a guy should be taller than a girl [a particular challenge for me], 2) I think a guy should be older than a girl [there's this whole 'Eve was fashioned out of Adam's rib' thing behind that]...
Although, I have more than what I listed here (in both categories) I am not a person who has a huge checklist of things. However, we all have some notion of things that we desire in a partner. We have things that we won't budge on (e.g., my first couple of items) and things that we really hope for, but may be willing to budge a little on... given the perfect circumstances. That brings me to the purpose of this post.
I had a conversation with a classmate the other day about the semi-negotiable items. We had some fun joking about the challenges that come with the circumstances that letting go of a semi-negotiable can pose, but he shared a good insight. This is a very loose paraphrase, but it maintains his point. He said something to the effect of: it is not really about [insert semi-negotiable here]. Really it is about whether, or not, each person is willing to take the person where they are and make it work. Basically, he was saying, if you meet a quality person who is worth going the distance for (despite their lack of that semi-negotiable item) you just have to put on your running shoes and be willing to go, no matter what that distance may be.
Good food for thought.
